I’m just a girl
Its something I say in jest sometimes, and hey, working in tech it can be a bit funny when I solve a super hard problem and declare don’t ask me I’m just a girl.
Sometimes I say it to flag that I’m aware of there is some obvious sexism, but CBF addressing it. Because addressing it gets you nowhere.
Anyway, I’m just a girl. And guys have different reactions to that in a boxercise/boxing context.
I get it that someone experienced will pull punches for anyone less experienced. But then when I’m training with someone who’s on my level, or maybe slightly better, and I notice this ‘tap tap pap’ instead of ‘jab jab cross’, it kind of miffs me. I have to stop and say “excuse me but is that as hard as you can hit?” and there follows a little convo about not wanting to hurt me, etc.
Now, I appreciate when an actual boxer holds back, or a guy with a foot height, 20kg of muscle and 3 years of training on me holds back; but when someone of roughly my size and experience tells me they don’t want to hurt me, I get kind of mad.
So, I make sure they work haaaard. I dance them around more, I bark “harder!” a lot, and I generally make fun of them because they all have a crappy jab (very few people get a nice hard crisp jab). I call them Fiddler Crabs.
My favourite kind of guy though is the one who will call me out when I say “I’m just a girl”. He’s the one who will stand up and tell me (and everyone in earshot) that women can do anything, even hit it a little bit hard.
Bless that guy.
Maybe its terribly manipulative, but I don’t really mean to set up these situations. I just notice that sometimes the dumb girl act will flush out the blokes who are actually worth my time.
I’m smaller, I’m weaker, I’m less experienced, but so are half the guys in the place.
Being a girl has zero to do with it.